Dear King,
Last week’s Secret introduced you to the idea of Dominance as the first pillar of sexual mastery.
And you learned how to make a powerful impression on a girl’s mind just by giving her commands in the bedroom.
However, here’s a quick word of warning—
Telling a woman what to do (inside or outside the bedroom) turns her on. But you shouldn’t bark orders/commands at her.
Any man who barks commands secretly believes he doesn’t deserve to be listened to.
He knows he hasn’t truly earned his leadership position…
…so he acts ultra macho and barks instructions at women, hoping they’ll get scared and listen.
But he’s overcompensating through intimidation, because he sucks at seduction.
Now, there’s only one scenario in which barking orders at a woman is effective.
I’ll address it when exploring the third pillar of sexual mastery: Variety, but we have a lot of ground to cover before we get there.
Let’s now take the idea of dominance even further by learning how to use dirty talk in the bedroom.
Dirty Talk
Sex is much better when you incorporate dirty talk into it.
Once you can talk dirty to a woman in bed (and have her talk dirty back to you), you’ll wonder why you were ever silent during sex.
Of course, it may feel strange at first. So you can ease into it just by being more vocal in bed.
It’s important for you to be sexually expressive, even when you’re not talking dirty.
Think about it—what gives you more sexual pleasure: a girl who moans and screams as you fuck her, or a girl who is silent and still as a corpse?
Of course you prefer the more expressive girl. And you’re a man, sex is 80% physical and 20% psychological for you.
But sex is 20% physical and 80% psychological for women, so you being vocal has an even stronger effect on them in bed.
This is why you shouldn’t be afraid to let out passionate noises during sex.
So remove your inhibitions—you will find that once you do, you’ll naturally want to communicate your pleasure…
…from sighing deeply when you enter a woman…
…to letting out a roar when you reach orgasm.
And once you’re comfortable making passionate noises, you should start talking dirty.
The tonality that you use when you’re talking dirty is very important.
Your voice should be deep and dominant, like the voice of a hypnotist.
It should be passionate, but controlled. And free of all nervousness or uncertainty.
A dominant man doesn’t speak with hesitation, nor does he look for approval before continuing his dirty talk.
He just does it.
So train yourself to maintain control of your voice, even at high levels of arousal.
The more sex you have, the more opportunities you’ll have to practise.
Alphas are great in bed due to the sheer amount of sex they have, not because of any innate ability .
Now, the best time to talk dirty with a woman is when she’s very aroused.
Ideally, this will be when you are having sex with her.
And the very best time is when you are giving her so much pleasure that she’s helpless to make any response.
When you have mastered the art of dirty talk, you’ll be able to fill a woman’s ear with a controlled, hypnotic stream of erotic language…
…even while you’re railing the shit out of her with everything you have.
But how do you begin to talk dirty in the first place?
Well, after you’ve “locked in” a new woman (by having sex with her on at least two different occasions), start calling her your dirty little girl.
Tell her how wet her pussy is, and how good it feels to be fucking her.
She’ll love it.
Then, after she’s become somewhat comfortable with you, start talking dirty even more when she’s very aroused.
Some of the best dirty talk comes from a real understanding of female sexuality.
Women go to their jobs and look proper all day, pretending that they’re thinking about platonic things.
Even when guys approach them, women have to pretend that they aren’t interested in sex.
Why? Because of social conditioning.
And this is torture for them, because women are even more sexually obsessed than men.
Not only do they think about sex more, but the thoughts are more intense because they try to repress them.
However, hardly any men have the insight to see that beneath the platonic façades, all women crave sex.
So you must stand out by showing women that you see through their act.
Tell them you know they’re thirsty for dick.
And personalise your dirty talk to make it even better.
Whenever you can, you should always call a girl your slut or your whore, rather than just calling her a slut or a whore.
This has a threefold effect.
First, she feels more dominated if you imply that you possess her like this.
Second, the idea of being yours adds to the Emotion (second pillar of sexual mastery) that she feels.
Finally, any insecurities that may be triggered by your talking dirty to her like this will be reduced by personalising your dirty talk.
Because she’s yours, she doesn’t have to worry as much about you being one of those guys that is so screwed up by social programming that he is secretly disgusted by women who respond to dirty talk.
In fact, possession is so important that it should be a theme by itself in your dirty talk.
When you’re fucking a woman, tell her that her pussy is yours, and that you own her pussy.
If she gives you a token “Nooo…” say “Really? Then why is your little pussy getting so wet for me? I think your pussy is mine…” and keep fucking her harder.
I didn’t really understand the power of talking dirty until I experimented with two different girls while they were giving me head.
I used the same scenario with both of them, but at different points in time.
When I was alone with each girl at my place, I whispered “Your mummy’s outside and you’re sucking dick. You’re a bad girl, you’re my bad girl”.
I repeated this over and over in a low whisper, almost like I was hypnotising them.
The first girl (let’s call her Sophia) texted me later to say I blew her mind and she thinks she’s in love with me.
As for the second girl (let’s call her Diane), I could hear her pussy dripping on my bed sheets while she sucked me off.
And I wasn’t even doing anything to pleasure her.
We saw each other for almost two years. And she randomly texted me out of the blue to say I must have cast a spell on her because she still thinks about me to this day.
You can combine this hypnotic technique with the value-building teaser from last week’s Secret for even more intense results.
Tell a girl to kiss your dick, to suck it a few times, then take it away from her so she can spend the next few days thinking about you.
Most girls are used to making a guy orgasm really quickly just by giving him oral sex.
So they see it as a sexual favour. They think they’re great in bed. They think they’re the prize.
But you change that power dynamic by framing your dick as the prize.
Suddenly you’re the guy who doesn’t need his dick sucked. And this will make her wonder.
What’s she doing wrong? Isn’t she sucking it well? Are other girls better in bed? Are they hotter? Is she going to lose you?
All this creates competition anxiety in her mind, and she’ll crave your dick in her mouth the next time you see her.
And when you heighten her arousal by whispering dirty things to her, you’ll turn her on in a way few guys will ever understand.
A woman can orgasm just by sucking your dick. And the wetter her mouth, the wetter her pussy.
This is a useful way to judge a girl’s level of attraction to you.
If she’s casually sucking your dick like a lollipop, she’s probably not too attracted.
But if she’s losing control and losing her sense of time (seeming like she can suck you off forever), then that’s a good sign.
Remember, you’re always leading and checking for her level of compliance, even in bed.
You must then increase the level of dirty talk every time you fuck her. When she’s very aroused, tell her that you know how much she thinks about sex.
Say that she pretends she doesn’t want to get fucked all day, but you know what a slut she is on the inside.
Tell her you know that she thinks about your cock inside her all day.
She’ll protest and give you a token “No…I’m a good girl…”, but don’t pay attention.
Tell her that her pussy gets wet when she even thinks about your cock inside her.
Tell her how wet she is right now, how she’s dripping all over your cock.
You can also tell her about your own arousal.
Tell her that you’ve been thinking about fucking her all day—that you get hard just thinking about tearing her wet little pussy up.
Tell her what you’re going to do to her—that you’re going to fuck her so deep and so hard and make her cum all over you.
Being under your control is also very exciting for a woman. So tell her that she’s yours, and that you’re going to fuck her anytime you want.
Tell her that she’s always going to have your cock in her pussy and that she’s going to take your cum inside her every day.
Just don’t get her pregnant. I personally avoid nutting inside chicks even when fucking them raw.
This requires tremendous discipline, so play the Game at your level.
You can also increase a girl’s investment by having her talk dirty back to you.
Tell her to beg your to fuck her.
Tell her she’s a bad girl, your bad girl, then tell her to say it.
These techniques are particularly effective when you’re fucking her from behind, when she’s on her hands and knees.
They play into her hidden fantasy of being so attractive that she’s used as a sexual object, like a piece of meat that’s been created just to take dick.
Make her call you master. Make her say “Yes, master” when you tell her to do things.
When she’s about to cum, tell her to cum for you like a good little slut, and she’ll say “Yes, master!”
If she waffles or refuses to say “Yes master,” then make her do so by pounding her harder with your dick.
This leads to the concept of physical dominance, which I’ll cover in next week’s Secret.
But for now you should know one more thing about psychological dominance and dirty talk:
Once you’ve established “ownership” over a woman, you can (and should) actually talk dirty to her outside the bedroom.
In fact, this should become a foundational part of your relationship.
Sex is meant to be messy, and if a woman doesn’t like to get freaky with you, then she’s just not that into you.
Till we meet again.
May you grow stronger and stronger, without limit, in all things.
AJ Newport (@LearnThisSecret)
